The Dark Side of Self-Development: 5 Genuine Reasons It Can Backfire

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You might be surprised to hear that now even self-improvement content is harmful. You might be thinking what is this person  talking about. you heard it right. I know you are very conscious about improving yourself theses days. You want to become successful in your life. You also want to make your parents feel proud of you. But the truth is, it's not the right way of improving yourself. 

Now a days people are using their phones even to solve small problem which they can solve by themselves. But the problem is you don't trust your own potential. People are very much addicted to their phones. If you feel a bit less confident you search how to boost self-confidence. If you find any self improvement video while scrolling, you immediately click on that video. You keep searching how to get Successful and rich. Listen iam very happy that you want to improve yourself. It's not your fault. I also used to do the same thing. But after finding the conclusion from my experience iam telling you this. 

I will tell you some reasons of how too much self- development is bad for you. So without any further ado let's start. 

Reasons why it's bad for you to consume too much self-development contents. 

1. Watching to contents such as "5 morning habits for energetic day". How to become successful in 3 months and etc etc. It makes you feel dull whole day it makes you unproductive, you feel dull and lazy whole day. This is not a big problem because, you will feel unproductive even after using phone for long time. So this statement is not much powerful. So let me introduce you some geniune statement. 
2. For the second one I would like to ask you a question. Whatever you see/watch on YouTube or somewhere else. Have you ever used any think you see on social media on self-improvement content? Have you ever implemented them in your life? NO right. You never implement them in your life. Do you know the reason. It's because when you see such contents you feel like you have already did a great work and you don't want to do anything anymore. And after few days you even forget about it. And that's how you never implement them in your real life. 
3. The third reason is, you become totally dependent on your phone. You don't want to do anything by yourself. And that becomes a big problem because, people nowadays don't trust their potential. They think someone else can tell them better about it. So, you go one YouTube and searches for your problems. Am l right? I have noticed one thing, that whatever I see on YouTube videos by some motivational speaker and advisers I realised that I already know about whatever they are saying. Then I understood that I can also do it. I don't need to spent hours on social media for all these things. I have the power within me. TIP: whenever you feel like i have some problem which needs to be solved. Then sit in a room silently for some time and you will notice all your thoughts are getting clear and you can actually find a geniune solution. 
4. You are always in th search of perfection. You always wants to be perfect. In pursuit of perfection, you keep going from one video to another video and you are never satisfied. No one is perfect, the day you become perfect you will stop learning, because you are perfect. So that's why perfection is not a good thing. No one is perfect and no one can become perfect. If you remember it, you can actually become the best version of yourself. Because perfect doesn't exist in person but becoming the best version of yourself is possible. stop chasing perfect. 
5. You can never related with your problems most of the time. Your problems sometimes can be very different from others. You can not find solution to your problems sometimes. So it's better to solve it by yourself. Stop depending on only social media. Do it by yourself. Because no one can understand you better than yourself. You are your best friend. 

Conclusion:  

Finally I just want to tell that everything should be done in limits. Overdose of anything is bad for us. Iam personally a personal development blogger. I too post blogs on the topic of self improvement and self care. So why would I say something which is against my blog? Why would I decrease my audience? Right. I am telling you about this just to make you aware of what wrong you are doing unknowingly. I just wanted to help you to progress in the right direction

So do I say stop it totally. Am I telling you to avoid it totally. NO, iam not telling to to avoid it totally. I am just advising you to be in limits. Watch few selected and limited contents only. Watch and learn only according to your brain capability. Learn as much as you can absorb. Don't just simply watch but watch it with full focus and watch only to content which are really useful. 

The bestest option is to learn human psychology, communication skills and important skills which can be useful and not just " how to spend your day" and etc. You cannot learn something just by watching. If you really want to learn something for your personal development, you have to implement it in your life. You have to gain experience in that particular thing. 

If you want to improve your communication skills you have to talk to people listen to people, contact with others. Then you will improve your communication skills. And not just by watching it on social  media. 

I hope you understood whatever i tried to explain. If  you understand this then you are really great. 

THANK YOU FOR VISITING.