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You read it right. I feel that we teenagers/children are the ones who can give the best parenting advice.
Do you know why? It's because we have seen and endured such terrible things that parents may not be able to understand. We know how we feel when parents behave differently, better than someone else.
So, yes I can say that I will give you much better parenting tips than parents. And whatever tips I will give are based on my real-life experiences. I will share things that happened to me which was not right. But I must say my parents did it without knowing they did it unknowingly. Which I will try to share with you today so that you can know whether you too are committing some mistake unknowingly.
So without any further ado let's start the blog.
1. Beating and humiliating them in front of others.
Sometimes children and teenagers make some huge mistakes. Sometimes they do something insulting. Sometimes they are late and many more things. No matter what the reason is don't react when you are out or you are in front of their friends or teachers or relatives or someone else. Try to control your reactions. Don't punish them in front of others.
This makes them feel bad and angry. Which leads to aggressive behavior in teenagers and adults. Because their self-respect and ego as well is very high at that time. They don't want anyone to judge them in front of anyone. Even if they are their parents. It is good to have self-respect but, It is very wrong not to listen to your parents and not value them.
Controlling your anger and reactions becomes very important when your child is in the teenage phase. Try to solve every problem with communication. Try to understand their points of view. Try to understand why they did something like that. Understanding between child and parent is very important.
2. Not listening to them and not giving any reply.
Don't ignore your child. Because children need always someone to talk to. They always want attention from everyone. And in this situation what will happen if you ignore or you will not listen to them? How do you feel when you are in a group conversation and no one is listening to you? Children also feel the same when they get ignored.
When any parent does such things to their child, their child feels unloved, unworthy and neglected. And even when they are in the conversation with someone else they don't talk much because they think they will get ignored. They feel less confident in conversations. This can become a huge problem in their adulthood.
So I just want to tell you to listen to your child even if you are busy. Don't ignore them because you are everything for them. Because whatever your child is now, is because of you. You are the reason for his/her being confident and you are also the reason for him/her to be less confident. because they will become the way you nurture them.
3. Giving them extra love and care.
The biggest problem of Today's/nowadays mothers is they take extra care of their children. They show love more than needed. But they don't realize that this is destroying their child.
As I always tell overdose of anything is harmful. No matter what is it. It is not at all a good habit.
Parents who always care too much and provide all the facilities before they ask and before they need them are the same as fools. Because it makes your child. Because of this your children never appreciate anything. They don't value anything. As they grow up, their needs also increase. Imagine, if you are not able to fulfill their increased needs, then their stubbornness increases. What will you do then? What if you can't meet their needs because of any problem?
Even if you do not fulfill their unnecessary needs, they will cry for a while and will be forgotten, but if you do not give them a true upbringing and the right values of life, they will cry for the rest of their life. Is that ok for you? It's much better to teach how to tie shoe laces instead of tying them every time. let them face some of their problems and let them become stronger. You don't always try to solve their problems. Make them independent and mature.
4. Having a favorite child / not treating all your children equally.
Equal treatment is very important for children. They don't like it when someone shows more love to others than them. It hurts them badly. Children facing inequality from their parents often experience psychological and mental depression.
They feel unworthy, unloved and neglected. This is one of the bad experiences for children who face inequality from their parents. Their confidence decreases. They start to feel like no one likes me.
As they get less attention and love from their parents they also get fewer opportunities in their lives. They don't like to socialize with others. They slowly turn into introverts. It leads to less interest in other activities and social activities because of their low self-esteem. So I just want to tell you to treat all your children equally. Give equal attention, support, love and treatment to all your children.
5. Always scolding your child.
Now last but not least, scolding your child in front of others is a different thing. But scolding them for their every mistake is a different thing. Parents should never scold their children for every small mistake they make.
Children don't have any experience of this Life. They don't yet know the reality of this world. Whatever they learn, they learn from their mistakes. If your child is walking today then he/she has learned it only after falling many times.
If you keep scolding them for everything they do, then they will stop doing something new in their life. They will stop doing and learning something new out of fear of you.
Do you know what its biggest and worst effect is on children? It's that they hear so much bad about themselves that they start hating themselves. They start hating themselves and they think they are of no use. They think I can't do anything well, I am a moron. And do you know Anger flares up a lot in such children and the anger within them becomes deafening?
So, the next time whenever your child makes any mistakes don't scold them. Try to explain to them what wrong they did and ask them not to repeat it the next time.
6. Comparision.
Comparison is the worst thing done by parents. Not only parents but children and teenagers also make comparisons of themselves with others. They learn comparisons from their parents.
If parents do it excessively then they stop believing their potential. They think everyone is better than them. If you compare your child with others then they will not become like them instead they will start hating themselves. In short, there is no benefit of comparison. It always hurts your child's brain.
Don't compare them with their friends, your friend's child or their siblings. Don't compare with anyone.
At the at of this blog, I just want to tell to try to understand the mentality of your child. Every child is not the same. If your one child is smart and disciplined then please don't expect the same thing from the second child. Everyone is not the same. If you understand this then it can be easy for you to understand your child.
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